DIL Times – I am not a chef

* DIL – Daughter In law

Tough time is not when you have to work over time or when your plan goes wrong, tough time is when things happen regardless of the ‘you’ factor having any role to play. It is when you have to spent time with a group without an option. You have to behave there and cannot be yourself. You have to hear them out and nod. Imagine when this has to happen often!!! I will say that is tough. I can give you an apt context, try being a daughter in law and you will understand.

I always feel we have skipped 2 generations between ours and our parents gen, i think it is a step ahead of the gap that might have occurred between our mother and her in laws. Be a girl or boy, there had been equality in education and exposure. Girls do not just cook, but they drive, take care of home, work, both produce as well as take care of children. However, what have not changed is the concept of marriage in the eyes of the parents generation. Few parents have succeeded in mastering the art of non-interference in their kids life, but again, they are only a handful of them. And this can be tested in the kitchen more than any other place. Neither do my peers nor i think, cooking is a big deal. We think we cook well enough, our spouses know that too, unlike old times they prefer us to be appreciated in the career side rather in the culinary side. Our spouses like it when we stand on a lucrative basis rather than sticking to kitchen all the time. When i feel grateful to this transformation of our spouses mind set, the category who don’t understand this is our previous generation.

It is nice when the husband willingly makes you a cup of coffee, the couple liking it whereas the parents would find fault with the daughter. Well, no big deal as the girls now know to ignore most of it. Without further deviations, my personal experience that lead me write about this is the instance when on a beautiful and rare holiday  i had to spend time with few relatives were they were judgmental on my culinary skills. Handling most of it successfully, one of them took the challenge of experimenting on my patience factor ticking of the entire cuisine she had developed in her 40 years of kitchen life. I know cooking is a major area of interest but not when it is being thrown on a wrong person. At the end of the day i had planned to tell her cooking is not what i mastered in my pre-wed life and having a basic interest i can develop it over the wahchef videos available in youtube. At least she succeeded in testing my patience level as well as communicating to me that she knew a great deal of cooking herself. No offenses intended, i too realized my absorption elasticity as well as how to manage tough times.